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How (Not) to Lose Friends

14 Wednesday Dec 2016

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A feminine woman is not confusing, deceitful, nor conniving, but is clear and transparent about her feelings, desires, and intentions.

She makes them known whether subtly or overtly, but either way, one can see her behavior, thoughts, and speech all harmonize with her true motives.

Of course we aren’t all born this way. Most of us must learn it… And as I look back to my early school days I realize I acted so unfeminine, that it shames me to this day.

I spent the whole day with my best friend Mandy at Disneyland as my mom kindly escorted us. We had a ball together! Here’s a picture of us below, Mandy is on the left:

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When we returned to my home & waited for her mom to pick her up, I didn’t want her to go home. I was having so much fun with her I wanted her to stay with me. Yet being a child, I didn’t know how to articulate this maturely, so I came up with a ‘bright idea’ to keep her with me. I told her that her mom was ugly. Now I don’t even remember how her mom looked, but I’m sure she was really lovely looking. I may have said this to Mandy, but I certainly didn’t mean it. I just thought she would think, well if she is, then I’ll stay with my friend. Sometimes, kids can make no sense! My words, however, had a negative affect on her, as you might guess. She started crying so intensely that when her mom came to pick her up, she was still crying. I was sad that she had to go, and her mom probably thought her daughter had a horrible time with me. I don’t recall anymore outings with her after that.

I wish I understood at that time how to plainly say, ‘hey Mandy, I had so much fun with you today, that I’d be sad for you to leave now. Wanna sleep over?’

That would have prevented me from fabricating stuff, making her cry, and gave me what I really wanted: more time with her. So Mandy, wherever you are now, I am so truly sorry for hurting your feelings with a lie because of my inability to express my feelings at that time.

Reflecting on this, causes me to wonder how many women are still fabricating stuff to try and get what they desire from a man? This is not the feminine nor honest way.

If we haven’t learned already, we should train ourselves to express our true feelings and wants to others without blame, judgement, or guilt. We should intuitively wait for the right time, with the right attitude in the right tone of voice and choice of words to share our thoughts and desires with others.

This is a painful lesson I’ve learned with Mandy. For I lost the confidence & friendship with my then best friend in one minute with one wrong and false word, for a lifetime.

Have you had any similar experiences that you’ve now learned from, regarding the expression of your feelings? I would love to hear about it and learn from it as well.

How High Heels are Masculine still today..

07 Wednesday Dec 2016

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High Heels are not feminine…!

Before you throw your stilettos at me, please, let me explain.

You see the ‘high heel’ was originally created for men. That’s right FOR MEN around the world, to show higher status, to help ride animals, & to fight with weaponry. The shoes were bold, powerful, and masculine. Empires such as the Ottoman, Egyptian, Persian, Italian, & England all fortified its use into their culture & fashion.

Then the horrific happens:

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Oh no!!! You mean to be more masculine,  women decided to WEAR HEELS?!!

Now fast forward to the period of where women wanted ‘equal rights’ and in order to bring women equality in the work force, women wore heels. They understood that the shoes did several magical things for them:

*puts them on the same height level as the average man

*makes up for the deficiency or difference in women compared to men

*gives them a sense of strength, power, & command

But we know femininity is soft, submissive, & sweet. It is also very gentle and unassuming. So due to its nature & purpose, femininity cannot be activated with high heels. Femininity accepts the role of a man being strong, powerful, & in command. She must be at his side as his compliment not his competitor.

Now, where does this leave us? I have plenty of heels, so what should I do?

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I don’t know if I will donate them all, but I am sure of this: I not only feel more feminine without them, but men are less intimidated to approach me when I wear flats or a very low heel.

Until I figure out the best & generous way to dispose of my high heels, I will continue to wear tennis shoes,  flats, & low heels as I enjoy the company of masculine men 🙂

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Voice & Mouth Exercises part 3 of 3

11 Friday Nov 2016

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If you want a near symmetric smile and clear diction, do the exercises prescribed below regularly. They were compiled from suggestions of professionals working in various aspects of a related industry, such as radio disc jockeys, speech therapists, & voice coaches. We can all improve in the area of intonation, voice, & mouth/lip control.

Here are some tips I’ve illustrated to best care for your vocal cords:

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I also practice perfecting my voice pitch & tone by following the vocal exercises Roger Love created on a disc for his book called Love Your Voice. 

Due to legal / copyright issues, I have included here instead a playlist to his YouTube videos that demonstrate similar exercises:

Enjoy!

Voice & Mouth Exercises ~ part 2 of 3

25 Sunday Sep 2016

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If you want a near symmetric smile and clear diction, do the exercises prescribed below regularly. They were compiled from suggestions of professionals working in various aspects of a related industry, such as radio disc jockeys, speech therapists, & voice coaches. We can all improve in the area of intonation, voice, & mouth/lip control. See video for demonstrations.

PLACING EMPHASIS
Place emphasis on the bolded word and see how the meaning of the same sentence changes. This shows you that you should be careful with how you say what you’re saying.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: Someone else said it, not me.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: I said something else, not that.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning:This was implied, but not said by me.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: I did not say she took it, it was he
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: She bought it, not took it.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: This book, not that one.
I didn’t say she took that book…. Meaning: The book wasn’t taken, it was the pencil.

COLORING
Say the following words in a descriptive manner that tells the listener what it means according to your pitch:
High/Low
Loud/Quiet
Soft/Hard
Small/Big
Love/Hate
Nice/Mean
Exciting/Boring
Sharp/Dull
Beauty/Beast
Lovely/Ugly
Normal/Weird
Exotic/Strange

MISSING SOUNDS
Practice pronouncing the following words clearly by saying every syllable and not dropping any sounds, slurring or substituting words:

Playing            Therapy            Bottle               Girl                Wake
Working          Theater            Gifts                   Pearl             Curt
Talking            Thesaurus        Guests               Curl               Bird
Listening        Thigh                Gentlemen        Shut             Artist
Eating              Thought            Brink                 Hurt             Company
Drinking          Theme             General              Loin              Depths
Thinking          Theology         Clothes              Bun              Mountain
Doing                Third               Chocolate          Foil               Thin
Saying              Thesis             Comfortable      Verse           Thug
Anything         Thirty             Opportunity       Person        Theatrical
Going                Thermal         Sentences          Toy               Theoretical
Trying               Thousand       Library               Learn           Speaking
Ringing            Thunder          Government    Voice            Hearing
Dealing            Thank              Wanted              Turn              Seeing

PACE
Time yourself speaking the paragraph below. Finish the whole thing in 30, 60 ,then 90 seconds. Find a comfortable pace to speak in and take care to announce all the syllables clearly! The bolded word is the midpoint, where you should be half way through at each 15, 30, and 45 second point, respectively.

Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices; a fountain of gardens, a well of living waters and streams from Lebanon. Awake, O north wind; and come thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof my flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.

In case you’re wondering, the above paragraph is from the book called the Song of Solomon 🙂

Voice Mouth Exercises ~ part 1 of 3

10 Saturday Sep 2016

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If you want a near symmetric smile and clear diction, do the exercises prescribed below regularly. This series of 3 parts were compiled from suggestions of professionals working in various aspects of a related industry, such as radio disc jockeys, speech therapists, & voice coaches. We can all improve in the area of intonation, voice, & mouth/lip control.

MOUTH/TONGUE/JAW MOVEMENTS

Oral skills for proper speech & development:
1. Massage your gums
2. Brush or press different objects of shapes, textures, & scents across your lips, cheeks, & tongue
3. Exaggerate and round your mouth to make these vowel sounds:
a. Ooo
b. Eee
c. Ooo-eee
4. Make ‘Puh’ sound, popping the P to emphasize, Tuh sound, & then Kuh sound
5. Kiss kiss, now hold and move it to the L to R and back again
6. Blow, either by whistling or using an instrument
7. Sip through a straw
8. Keep your lips together as you contract the cheeks
9. Smile big
10. Keep your jaw still as you say ‘lalalalala’
11. Put the tip of your tongue behind your upper teeth and hold it
12. Repeat these letters:
a. Ttttt
b. Nnnnn
c. Ddddd
13. Use your tongue to:
Move the tip from left to right of the inside of your mouth with your mouth closed
a. Make circles to trace your lips, either on the outside or inside
b. Stick it out as far as you can and curl it up & down
c. Form your mouth in a perfect ‘O’ shape and circle your head in both directions while holding it
14. Speak the following words and sounds 5x:
a. Buttercup
b. Lollipop
c. Rocketship

Want a video for demonstrations? Let me know…

Call Me ‘Exotic’

23 Tuesday Aug 2016

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Recently, I found & read something surprising on a blog and then about a current young girl movement. They explained why they are emphatically against being labeled as, of all things, ‘exotic’. Their sentiment seems to stem from the word used to describe a particular the category of inanimate living things like animals, plants, fruits, or flowers. Therefore, it appeared degrading to them to be termed as such.

Yes, I agree with the freedom to think, feel, & form an opinion about anything in this world of ours. So I have no argument against those girls & young women, who feel this way. What one perceives, is, what one perceives..

Yet, as for me, I have an affinity with this word EXOTIC…

It is defined as very different, strange, unusual, & Mysterious…

In addition, something exotic is also seen as from another part of the world or from a foreign place.

Well, according the John 18:36, I AM EXOTIC!

Jesus answered, “My Kingdom is not of this world; if my kingdom were of this world, then would my servants fight,….”

Because the Son of Man is my King, I belong to his Kingdom. And not of this world.

Truly, exotic-ness to a person is relative to the environment he or she lives in, like accents or produce. It is also a point of view. So, as a feminine woman, I personally don’t mind being grouped in with the flowers & fruits. Women have ALWAYS been associated with these things since the beginning of time, along with various types of foods or spices..

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We are known as peaches, cherries, berries, & limes. Men refer to us as pumpkins, honey, sugar, & syrups! And aren’t we the roses, violets, and tulips of a man’s heart?

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Oh, do think of me as Exotic!

There are many facial and physical features some people find exotic, like sharp cheek bones, coarse hair, sexy round eyes, & bubble butts, but I prefer my spirit be exotic above these. I desire to come from foreign lands & realms, to tell tales of special kingdoms forgotten by men. I want to share the native intangible gifts my presence brings to any person willing to embrace me. I love to be extra-ordinary, to deliver refreshment to anyone’s mundane lifestyle.

I breath to embody the EXOTIC.

Please tell me you aren’t offended by this & that you have another perspective on this word as well.

I am NOT that Salad Girl

16 Tuesday Aug 2016

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I am NOT that salad girl…

Ok… We women have heard it from many men! They hate it when a girl they’re dating orders the salad and barely eats it. Well I’ve got the share something with you:

I am NOT that salad girl.

When I am fortunate to be graced with a man’s presence on a date, I give him the pleasure.

The pleasure of me eating meat
The pleasure of ordering for me
The pleasure of finishing the whole plate
The pleasure of being myself when I eat food
The pleasure of not demanding the most expensive, yet not choosing the cheapest
The pleasure of not telling him what he should & shouldn’t order
The pleasure of just letting him be him

You see I come to the date HUNGRY. And therefore, the man sees my food choice as realistic & acceptable, since it is what a normally choose. He knows it wont change later on. He learns that…

I am NOT that salad girl

I thought about my thoughts and almost titled this post ‘what women should order on a date’. Then I thought: what if there are some women allergic to meat, or worse, all foods except salads? What if for dietary or medical or religious reasons, they cannot eat whatever they want? What if they genuinely like..*gulp*…salads?

As the shock of my revelations calmed down, I realize that I can accept this. I will not ask them to change to please the man that can’t stand the salad ordering girl. But as for me, my house, & men that want to date me, I proudly declare that:

I am NOT that salad girl

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What Men really Want, part 2

03 Wednesday Aug 2016

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It’s easy to find out what men want, but to give it to them precisely in the uniqueness of their individuality, takes skills. Every man wants something that differs from other men, as each one is specific & has individual needs. But there are some general agreements that the following things are inherit in most men.

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Our appreciation~
Men love it when we appreciate anything they do for us. From grand to small or little to big, it makes them feel good about doing something for you when you show genuine thankfulness towards them.

A safe place to open up~
Every man needs a nurturing nest to go to, when the harshness of this world beats against their soul each day. They want to come home to a place that they can rest, have peace, regenerate their spirits, & reveal their secrets.

Hidden gem(s) discovered in him~
Every one wants to feel unique, especially to the person they love & care about. When you draw out, magnify, & celebrate attributes in your man, he takes notice & beams inside. He feels good & thinks you’re special for acknowledging something lovely that others don’t. It could be anything that other men do not have, or don’t do, or are not.

Shown a deeper love~
Men want to experience love that they cannot get from their parents, their male buddies, or a child. They want a woman who is not afraid to love them. The type of love that is not afraid to reach out first & fully, while sinking past the surface, in order to share deeper emotions of love, kindness, tenderness, gentleness, & affection. This love shares loving thoughts & demonstrates loving behavior, at all times.

To be around a confident woman~
A woman who believes & knows she has something no other woman has is powerful. She accepts her imperfections as her unique trademark, which frees her to be able to enjoy sharing her true talents with her man. She isn’t insecure to the point of debilitation neither is she a nuisance toward other women. She simply is…radiating confidence!

 

What do MEN really want?

20 Monday Jun 2016

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Every girl want to know what is at the heart of every man. They appear to be alien to us as they speak different a language, operate at different a frequency, & live with a life different code. They are hard to decipher, since they are so much different from us, which make them very delicious!

But what do they what?

We know what we want: love, security, protection, & a never ending shopping spree!

Yet men are a mystery to us, as we are to them. But I’m happy to share that I found out their secret. Yes, my lovely ones, I have poured over many male&female relation-ship materials: books, sites, movies, songs, poems, & interviews.

And so I uncovered it.

I discovered that, although each man is different and will have different goals, focuses, & mannerisms, they are share a set of basic wants.

Once you discover these wants, you can begin to have a better relationship, conversation, and interaction with them, since you will understand the basis of their existence with us. Men want a lot of things, not unlike us women, but I will concentrate of the top 5 critical wants of many men.

5 To be successful ~ a man’s definition of himself is often defined by how successful he believes he is. He wants to accomplish great things in his own eyes. It could be getting that promotion, winning a trophy, or signing a major client to his company.
4 To be needed ~ men just need to be needed! They need to feel their existence is worth something to the person they care about the most. Whether you ask him to help with understanding a complex concept or pulling something off a high shelf, needing him gives his self worth around you an extra boost.
3 To be respected ~ while women crave to be loved, men need to be respected, by his family, his community, but especially by his lover. He wants to feel that his life , his decisions, his capability of being a man & taking care of business is highly respected. You can show him respect by allowing him to take the reins, made decisions, great or small, & choosing to follow his direction willing & cheerfully. Compliment him on good choices he makes concerning himself or for you.
2 To be honored ~ the best ones to show a man the honor that makes him feel like he can fly over any mountain, are the ones in his own immediate family. Treating him special due to his own uniqueness empowers him to be a great man. It bolsters self esteem, self confidence * self worth, in his mind, spirit, and soul. Watch any environment change to favor those who honor any man.
1 To be admired ~ look at any thing a man has accomplished or overcame, no matter how tiny or enormous. Whichever it is, magnify it in his presence. Genuinely appreciate him for whatever he has done to achieve any thing at any time in his life.

Can you think of anything that you believe men really want?

Share it with me in the comments below!

How to inherently live in Feminine Energy

03 Friday Jun 2016

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Sometimes it’s overwhelming to mature in all the nuances of becoming a natural woman at once. From dress to movements & character to spirit, there is a lot of work to do!

But you can make your journey easier & quicker by living in feminine energy. This is achieved through your thoughts. When you daily think FEMININE, it become a subconscious part of you.

At that moment, you make the transference from actively & consciously working on it, to innately & subconsciously being it….how lovely!

There are many fun ways to incorporate femininity into your day. Here are four ways, taken from my book the 39 Elements to Femininity:

~Place the most softest images in front of you each day. Put them in a place where you dwell in and/or look at the most. Here are great illustrations:

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~Listen to at least 3-5 *beautiful* songs every day. Something romantic or sensual, serene or nature-like, harmonic or celestial, & epic or mellow, to alter any harshness encountered with your day, with your environment, with your past, and/or with your circle of friends.

My favs are:

1. Micha El ~ The Image of God ~ Aramaic
2. Axiom of Choice ~Turquoise Island – Farsi ( I believe )
3. Hossam Ramzy ~ Tool Omri Ba-Hebbak ( I loved you all my life ) ~ Arabic

~Watch movies with the classiest women & watch how they move and respond to stimuli around them. Imitate them in a mirror to make sure you are doing it precisely like them.

I recommend Funny Face (1957), Belle (2013), & One Night with the King (2006)

~Practice making *lovely* sounds every day. You can speak the most loveliest words into your conversations, make ooos or ahhs, practice playing a soft instrument, like a flute, hand cymbals, violin, or mimic various cute animals utterances.

The words I love to use in my interactions are ‘fluffy’,’ lovely’, & ‘marshmallows’.

Taking a small amount of time out of your day of 24 hours, & really about 16 waking hours, it is possible to interweave most of these elements into your day or even once a week, since the movies are about 2 hours long 🙂

If you would like more information, check out my book*, where I prescribe 39 elements for you to unleash your femininity within 5 weeks.

*Available on kindle & print.